Years ago I headed a five person counseling practice that was attached to one of the Midwest’s largest dating services. In order to be part of our group you had to take three psychological tests and meet with a state licensed therapist.

What we had was something similar to what EHarmony does on the web, but we did it face to face with a licensed counseling staff.

Our advisory team, and guest experts included noted authorities in fields related to the choosing, wooing, understanding and keeping a relationship and marriage. Folks like Helen Fisher (noted anthropologist and now chief science officer at Chemistry,com ) Harvel Hendricks (author of “Getting the Love You Want,” “Keeping the Love You Find,) Dr. Randy Hammer (noted sex therapist,) Dr. Dori Hollandar (author of “101 Lies Men Tell Women and Why Women Believe Them,” ) John Gray ( author of Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus.) and more.

The purposes of the center were:

Teach members about themselves.
Teach members about making choices based on their knowledge of themselves.
Provide them ways to meet other people also knowledgeable about themselves and making choices. We did this through a proprietary matching system, member’s own choices from member profiles and videos, and events we sponsored for our membership
Through readings, seminars and events, teach them the skills they need to make a relationship work, including: Parenting and Discipline, Finances and Goals, Sex and Intimacy, How to Fight Fair and many more.

This blog will attempt give insight to what we learned and have tried to teach others. Some will be written, some will be pod-casts from our guest lecturers and advisers. We will also be posting about love, marriage, with us you just never know.

We have asked other ministers, counselors and other folks to post as well with their thoughts, wedding info and a lot more.

We hope you find it useful.

If you have something you would like to share on the blog please email to


The Most Reverend Charles E. Million D.D.

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